the lucky ones
A few nights ago, I received a forward from a good friend. I rarely read them but as I began to review this one, I felt glued to the screen. They seemed simple enough that I had heard all before. They seemed deep enough that I had experienced each of them, but I realized that it’d been some time before I had truly sat down to write any down. So, I quickly began to translate my favorites…
They went a little something like this:
I have learned that even the darkest of hours hold only 60 minutes.
I have learned that those who have faced hardships were being stregthened for a greater purpose.
I have learned that the people that one most likes are the people that one can speak their mind to.
I have learned that our actions express our priorities.
I have learned the importance of opportunities. Of knowing when to take the firsts and when to hand out seconds. I learned of betrayal, and that even the people we most love, will harm us. The important thing is to know who is worth suffering for and who isn’t. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
And after going through all that content, it seemed natural to have a few of my own:
I have learned that the gold has always been & will always be wrapped in the things that scare us sh*tless. That’s the point, few dare to go there and for the few that do, they carry it in their eyes.
I learned that though someone can break your heart, destroy you to a point “passed recovery,” they unknowingly hand over something no one else can give you. They give you that moment– that devilsh smile when you walk out of the storm and realize there’s more to you that just that story. And to their surprise and yours…you realized you’re not finished. Moreover, you’re happy and just like that, you keep going.
I have learned that one of the most important habits that one has to create is investing time in understanding how one feels.
I have learned that if we are paying close attention, life has provided us with the right people, skills, and tools to get through this life graciously.
I learned the importance of opening up to those who came before you. Their madness, their take on the world: love, work, sex, music, money. It will be through their struggles, mistakes, and triumphs that we will find the courage and humility to keep moving through our own.
I learned that the cure to a bad day lies in the simple desire to have a good one.
I learned the difference between pains. There are some that are meant to be endured, these are the ones that make us better. And there are pains that we are meant to avoid, the pains that are choice. We might spend an entire lifetime working on learning the difference.
I learned that eventually we are all re-educated on our concept of time. We are fools to think we have all the time in the world, but we are even bigger idiots if we lack the patience to let things ride at their own pace.
I learned that true growth lies in the bad habits of the everyday. There is a reason that the hardest habits to overcome are the smallest. That’s usually the way it works—if it’s meanginful, it’ll be hidden in plain sight, inviting to be overlooked.
I have learned that there is a special place between working hard and having faith, which is usually where great things happen.
Lastly, I have learned that we’re so lucky. We’re so lucky to be here, to have a chance to make things, change things, hear things, go places, see things, feel things… alone and together.
Yours truly, Tone