the phoenix and baseball

Sometime in this life, at one point or another, you will come to the very ugly realization that you are not the one. Who’s one? I don’t know.

You won’t be the one for the job. You won’t be the one someone turns to. You won’t be the one someone wants to settle down with. You won’t be the one someone wants to invest in. You won’t be the one with the award. As remarkable as you are, one day, you will not be IT.

Imagine a bunch of kids getting ready to play baseball. Two captains are at the head of a crowd of kids cherry-picking their players. Now picture those last two kids and then, that last one standing who just walks over to the team to even out the numbers. Whether it happened to you or not, we all know that it sucked.

Even if you are one of those people who always gets picked, your time will come when you don’t.

It’ll hit you like a brick in the face. Whether you admit it or not, we have all felt this very particularly horrible type of hell. For some or most, it’ll happen more than once. It freaked some people out so much that they spent their lives figuring out how to avoid it. But, it doesn’t work that way now, does it?

There is nothing like finding your dream job, and there’s nothing like not getting it. There is nothing like having a plan, and little can match the fear that we will not be the one to carry it out. There is nothing like falling in love, but nothing can describe getting burned.

However, sometimes not getting picked is the thing that you need. Sometimes, it’s the not getting picked that gives you your next move. Sometimes, it’s what sets you free.

There is power after the worse thing happens. To find something and then lose it makes way for a phoenix process. A cosmic unraveling that is quite extraordinary when and if you let it run its course. Octavia E. Butler wrote, “In order to rise from its own ashes a phoenix first must burn. We have a chance that others don't have: we can only rise if we've fallen; we can only be reborn if we've known what it feels like to die inside.”

So when it happens, go back to the field.

In baseball, as in life, there are two rules: no matter who you are, you’re going to lose & no matter who you are, you’re going to win. So, you gotta keep showing up.

As Babe Ruth said, “It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up.”